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|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on May 8, 2015 at 10:00 PM|
"It's okay to be okay." Dr. Dale Goodman
Sometimes we are so used to struggling, being in turmoil and stressed out that we believe this has to be forever. Life can be better, but you will need let go of your hurt, anger, unforgiveness, control and dysfunctional beliefs and behavior. It's okay to be okay. Just think about it!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on May 6, 2015 at 9:55 PM|
"To listen fully means to pay close attention to what is being said beneath the words." Steven Covey
If you are not sure, ask what you think is beneath the words. In other words, when uncertain about a negative perception, verify by sharing this. Is it true or a misperception? Ask. Ask. Ask. Clarify your assumtions!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on May 6, 2015 at 9:45 PM|
“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt, until they are too strong to be broken.” Samuel Johnson
Don't let your habits take you down!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on September 24, 2014 at 12:55 AM|
What mask are you wearing? Most of us are afraid to reveal our true inner pain, fear and insecurity. We wear masks of laughter that one day may lead to greater suffering. Possibly, it's time to get help, removing your mask forever.
“Even in laughter the heart may ache.” Proverbs 14:13a
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on September 16, 2014 at 10:55 AM|
Contemplating the way to go? God's way or your way? God's way or the way of the world?
Abundant living awaiting you, but it must be His way.
“In the way of righteousness, there is life.” Proverbs 12:28a
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on September 16, 2014 at 10:10 AM|
Watching your mouth?
How many times have you wanted to take back the words you have spoken. Sometimes our quick reactions prompts hurtful words and behavior. The damage to a persons heart and soul may be irreparable. We all can do better. Reflect on the following verse.
“Guard your lips, guard your life. Speak rashly, come to ruin. .” Proverbs 13:3
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on September 9, 2014 at 10:55 AM|
Getting lazy? Sluggish? Dependent? There is a cost!
“Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in bondage.” Proverbs 12:24
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on September 4, 2014 at 10:10 AM|
Here are some writings taken from the Book of Lamentations, Chapter 1. Could this be our nation, other countries, our lives, marriages and families at risk?
There is no escaping the price to be paid for continually turning away from a holy, just and loving Creator. As His creation, we are to honor and to glorify Him. But, it seems most are going their way and not God’s way. The cost will be enormous. The corrosive and destructive effects of sin are everywhere. We must turn are hearts back home to Christ Jesus, our Lord and Savior.
Here may be a frightening preview of what many once great people, marriages, families and nations could be facing if we do not turn from our sinful ways.
Once upon a time…
“How deserted lies the city, once so full of people… who once was great among the nations… bitterly she weeps at night, tears upon her face… all her friends have deserted her, they have become her enemies.
After affliction and harsh labor, Judah has gone into exile. She dwells among the nations and finds no resting place. All who pursue her have over taken her in the midst of her distress… all her gateways are desolate…
The Lord has brought her grief because of her many sins.
Her children have gone into exile captive before the enemy. All the splendor has departed from the Daughter of Zion. Jerusalem has sinned greatly and so has become unclean. All who honor her despise her, she groans and turns away. Her filthiness clung to her clothes; she did not consider her future. Her fall was astounding; there was none to comfort…
The enemy laid hand on all her treasures… all her people groan as they search for bread; they barter for food to keep themselves alive. Is any suffering like my suffering that was inflicted on me, that the Lord brought on me in the day of His fierce anger?
No one is near to comfort me, no one to restore my spirit. My children are destitute because the enemy has prevailed.
The Lord is righteous, yet I rebelled against his command.
I called to my allies but they have betrayed me. O Lord how distressed I am! I am in torment within and in my heart I am disturbed, for I have been most rebellious. People have heard my suffering but there is no one to comfort me. All my enemies have heard of my distress; they rejoice at what you have done.” Lamentations 1 (select verses)
May this not be me, O Lord!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on September 2, 2014 at 10:50 AM|
Are you being truthful? Somehow our lies find us out, if not now, later.
“Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.” Proverbs 12:19
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on August 26, 2014 at 10:45 AM|
Our words can make or break a life. What about your words?
“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on August 19, 2014 at 10:45 AM|
Are you listening?
It is often difficult to listen to the honest critique of another. I know, I have been there.
What's keep you from being open to others ideas and suggestions? Do you always have to be right? Is it all about you? Could there be other ways, options and routes? What is God wanting?
“The way of a fool seems right to themselves, but a wise person listens to advice.” Proverbs 12:6
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on August 18, 2014 at 11:40 AM|
Speaking of a fool...
Could that be you? I know I have been a fool many times. Here is a check list to see how you are doing. Possibly, you will stop playing the fool! It hurts others and ultimately hurts you!
• Finds no pleasure in understanding others.
• Delights in airing their own opinions.
• Answers before listening.
“The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge. The ears of the wise seek it out.” Proverbs 18:15
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on August 12, 2014 at 9:50 AM|
God is not looking for perfectionism, but intent. What is the intent of your heart? Your motives, desires and purpose? Is it to honor God in all you think, say and do?
Integrity and righteous living are evaporating from the lifestyles of many today. If we seek to live a healthy, wholesome and God-honoring life the rewards will come. Read from from Proverbs 10
Guidance & Reward
• Integrity of the righteous (those seeking to live right with God) will guide them.
• Sow in righteousness (living in a right relationship with God), reap a sure reward.
Honor God and others with your life. God is working everything out for your good and His glory.
Embrace this part of your life story. It will be for His glory!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on August 4, 2014 at 6:45 AM|
Abandoned by God by Dale Goodman
Our lives can be extremely difficult, painful and depressing. It’s reality. It’s been part of my life’s journey too. Often, it doesn’t make sense and we feel abandoned and betrayed by God.
‘God where are you? How could you let this happen? If you loved me, you would have prevented this divorce, job loss or health issue. ‘
My only way of surviving these types of experiences was not turning away from but to God. It seems easy to blame and turn against God as the problem maker. We literally throw God under the bus. However, does this really seem to work? If there is one lesson I have learned in these broken times of life, is my desperate need for him. It is during these times we feel God is throwing us under the bus, that we need to stay the course with him. Personally, I have to cling to his every word from the Word for my sanity, serenity and security.
I have endured, struggled and seen God make up for the years the locusts have eaten away. I needed to trust that God was in control, leading me to something I didn’t understand. Stay faithful to the One who “works all things for the good of those who love him and have been called for His purposes.” You will get through this. It may not be the way you are hoping, but in the end, you will have grown in your faith, fortitude and blessings from God.
Let God lead you. Do everything you can to follow Him with a good spirit and attitude. God knows you. He knows what has happened in your life. Time will often reveal his purposes. Be patient. Be reliant upon Him in the journey. Believe. Begin. Become.
Below are two excerpts from Jesus Calling (July 5) that were helpful to me, possibly these may help you too.
“You will never be in control of your life circumstances, but you can relax and trust in My control. Instead of striving for a predictable, sage lifestyle, seek to know Me in greater depth and breadth.” Young, S. (2004). Jesus Calling. Nashville: Thomas Nelson.
“I long to make your life a glorious adventure, but you must stop clinging to old ways… Be on the lookout for all that I have prepared for you.” Young, S. (2004). Jesus Calling. Nashville: Thomas Nelson.
God's heart for you today: “Let Me guide your life. I know the way you should take. I am your guide. Trust Me. Lean not on your own understanding. Trust Me. Let go of past hurts. Judge not. I will be the judge. Let it go. Be free. Stay humble. I am leading your life. I have a plan. I will get you there. Lean not, but lean on Me. I am the way the truth and the life. My plans are good. Stay faithful. Stay focused. It will all pay off. Get your eyes off yesterday. Press on. Focus today on Me. I will take care of you. Believe. Trust Me.” God
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on July 28, 2014 at 1:00 PM|
A Genuine Proof of Love
“Whoever forgives an offense promotes love.”Proverbs 17:9
Love is proven by our words and deeds. Forgiveness is a genuine proof of grace, mercy and love.
Are you passing the love test? If so, you must forgive those you say you love! If not, you lose. You'll become toxic, eroding with the effects of your own revenge, bitterness and unforgiveness. It is your choice today. Forgiveness is a true act of love. Just do it!
“If we don’t get to God, invaluable treasures will be lost. We lose God’s unfailing love and incredible forgiveness” (Daily Office, 2008, p.2).
“Lord may your will, not my will be done in my life. Help me to listen to you and grant me the courage to faithfully surrender to you” (Daily Office, 2008, p.6).
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on July 21, 2014 at 8:00 AM|
The Skunk Test
Skunks smell. Sometimes, we smell too, by the lives we live. We smell of deceit, arrogance, selfishness, greed, disrespect, abuse, and on and on it goes. So when the skunk test comes, will there be any odor displeasing to God and hurtful to others?
“The Lord tests the heart.” Proverbs 17:3b
The Lord often tests our hearts in moments of stress, adversity, frustration and just not getting our way. We are tested in areas of honesty, consistency, compassion, fidelity, finances, love, communication, commitment, hurt, betrayal, bitterness, selfishness, greed, purity, obedience, humility, etc.
So, how are you doing? Are you passing the skunk test for an odorless Christ-like living? Where is darkness taking over? What could be hindering your relationship with God and others? Is there any room in your heart for Jesus?
Why don’t you give God all your heart now! Release your fear, guilt, shame and life completely to Him. He will forgive you and fill your heart with His Spirit, love, peace, purpose and power, resulting in greater fulfillment, favor and blessings for your life?
“Lord, help me to see how much I lose when I lose you. My perspective on my life and all of life gets distorted when I don’t make space for you, obscuring your love for me” (Daily Office, 2008, p. 3).
“Our goal is to love God with our whole being, to be consistently conscious of God through our daily life (Daily Office, 2008, p.12).
For the glory of God,
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on July 16, 2014 at 10:20 AM|
Is life all about me? Could it be that life is not all about me, but about "Thee". Just think about it. All life comes from Thee, God. All life depends upon Thee, God for its sustanance, sanity and survival. The bottom line: "me" without "Thee" will end up paying a dear price. There is no room in our lives for pride, selfishness and greed. These are deadend roads to broken lives and relationships.
Proverbs 16 (excerpts)
“The Lord detest the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished…Pride goes before destruction, an arrogant spirit before the fall… Better to be lowly in spirit and among the oppressed than to share plunder with the proud.”
There is a better way. Humble yourself in the sight of the Lord and He will lift you up!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on July 8, 2014 at 12:35 AM|
In my own life and observations in counseling, I would suggest that 80% of the damage to one's elf-concept experienced by age 21. From conception, childhood, adolescence to young adults our experiences formulate a healthy or unheathy self-concept.
What about you? Where has your damage come from and when?
If it happened before age 21, and you have not dealt with it, then most likely still has a foothold in your life, relationships and work?
In closing, don't let your past control you today. Give your wounded soul to God for healing. Get help. Claim the truth of Scriptures, you are loved, forgiven and blessed. It can begin today!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on May 18, 2014 at 12:35 AM|
In my reading today, this verse caught my attention. "The Lord tests the heart." Prov 17:3
It made me ponder these two questions: What would He find in my heart? Would it honor Him and others?
I wonder how many of us would pass the Lord's testing of our hearts? If He examined ,our thoughts, actions and words would they honor God?
I think most of us would not do well with an exam of the heart? Possibly, it's time to re-think about what we can do to pass God's final exam. Would He find love, honesty, purity, fidelity, forgiveness, faithfulness, courage, truth, patience, joy respect or other gossip, anger, bitterness, denial, lust, addictions, infidelity, selfishness and envy?
We can all do better. How about asking for God to forgive you and to give you a fresh start... A renewed mind with new attitudes and behavior that truly honor Him and your loved ones? Ask Him to remove anything from your heart and life that dishonors God and others. Why not? What do you have to lose?
Let's begin today! Today I will live holy, healthy and helpful life.Lord test my heart, soon, I know you will be pleased!
|Posted by Dr Dale Goodman on May 1, 2014 at 10:50 AM|
In my Bible reading today, I was reminded of God's heart for the forsaken. Possibly this will bless you today. -- Dr. Dale
Psalm 27:10 “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”
We all have been forsaken, hurt and betrayed by someone, parents and others. Life is like that. It's going to happen. Sometimes, the wounds of the soul go very deep. They're never erased and remaiing in the archives of our broken memories. However, the pain can be diminished by embracing God's heart for you. No matter what you have experienced, God's heart was broken, too.
Prayer: Thank you Lord for helping me through the times of rejection, hurt, and betrayal being hurt and forsaken by others. It has only strengthened Our relationship. You are the Father I need. You provide me with a mother’s heart of love and comfort. Thank you for being here for me.
P.S. Hold on to this truth for you: "I will see the goodness of the Lord. I will wait for the Lord; be strong, take heart and wait upon the Lord." Ps 27:14